Is life, career or business coaching just what you need?

This article is to help you ascertain whether coaching could be beneficial to helping you move forward whether in Life, Career, or Business. It also helps take away some uncertainties as well as answer questions you might have before taking the first step to finding the right coach for you.

What is coaching?

Coaching is good for anyone who is motivated to create a better life.

Coaches help their clients explore and come up with the best choices for them based on where they are and the client's vision for their future. Coaches are experts at the process of changing behaviour, which is much more valuable than giving instructions.

A coach will hold you accountable and challenge you to grow and do more than you think you can do. They may push, pull, and stretch you in ways that may feel uncomfortable. Due to this, be ready to go on a journey, you will feel liberated, motivated and enlightened for the most part, but also be prepared to be challenged and at times frustrated. When you break through frustration this is when break throughs in life are also very powerful.

A bit about my experience as a coach..

Over the years of working in the Life, Career & Business coaching space one-on-one with clients, ageing from 21 through to 60, the transformations achieved never ceases to inspire and amaze me.

The coaching process isn’t always a smooth sailing one and the relationship develops interestingly…but usually always with amazing results for the client and their life. This is not me blowing my trumpet here…the achievements, breakthroughs and transformations are all brought about by the clients openness and trust in the process…which for many can be so far out of their normal comfort zone it blows me away even more.

Is what your dealing with relevant for coaching?

Don’t worry whether you think a problem is too big or too small, everything is relevant to you…and that is what coaching is about.

If a coach expresses to you that they believe you could be better helped elsewhere, this is the sign of a good coach. Do not take it personally, a coach has to feel confident that they have the skills and expertise to get the results you need & they should not take on anyone who they think could benefit from another source of therapy. Any good coach should have connections with other professionals that they can signpost you to.

How you’ll probably feel about the first meeting..

Really, your initial consultation should be free; this is where the coach can illicit what your needs are and they can offer you ways in which their coaching can be beneficial to you. 

The initial consultation may feel like it will be confronting; I remember when I first started seeing a coach before I became one, the first time was filled with nervousness of suddenly not knowing what to say and forgetting all of the reasons why I even wanted to speak to a coach in the first place. Fear of the unknown can take over that it makes not turning up seem like a good option. Getting over that initial hurdle is the start to your transformation…believe it or not! And see the next point…

 Remember the pressure isn’t just on you,,,

A few months back I had an enquiry from a client who was ‘interviewing’ for a coach. I loved this and couldn’t wait to meet him and be interviewed by him.

Remember is that its as much up to a coach to make you feel comfortable and show you their expertise in a very short amount of it, as it is for you to have something to say! Any good coach will overcome any awkwardness you feel, they should be able to elicit quite quickly from you the reason for you seeking them out and they should then be able to clearly explain their process in relation to your situation and be able to let make you feel confident that their approach will help with what you are looking to achieve.

If you aren’t feeling comfortable by the end of your first session then maybe it is worth ‘interviewing’ a few others to see whether there is someone you will have more of a connection with.

What you should ascertain from the first real paid session..

In your first paid session your coach should work with you to ascertain the goals you’d like to achieve through coaching in a realistic timeframe and for you to properly understand the coaches process of how you will work to achieve them.

Then it should be down to business…leave your expectations behind you; if you think its all going to be tangible and to do lists then you will be surprised!

Moving Forward..

Most people seek coaching when they want to improve or change something external to them in their life; relationships, job / career, business, family, financial situation, different life decisions etc. This is where my approach gets interesting for my clients…the breakthroughs from learning, opening up to new perspectives, timeline based therapy, learning truly about oneself, and over time becoming powerful to choose emotions and actions, rather than feel a victim to external circumstances brings about the biggest shifts and breakthroughs in every area of someone’s life…as well as actively working towards the initial set goals of the coaching.

Being able to take responsibility and to truly accept where you currently are at, as bad or as hard as life or decisions may seem at the moment, opens up space for relevant and positive opportunities to come along. Living life through the lens of where you ‘should’ be right now closes you off to new possibilities. Once negative self beliefs, and negative emotions such as fear, guilt or shame are removed as a subconscious survival mechanism, the world opens up.

My approach is both personal and tangible. The first few sessions are not only about goal setting and action tasking, but clearing any personal beliefs that don’t serve the client, and which are stopping them from moving forward.

The results always astound me as not only do my clients actively start achieving what they set out to, but all of the area’s of their life become more positive. They realize that they can have it all & it’s all achievable.

That is why I am a life coach and love what I do. Being able to empower people to live a life that they truly want, and seeing the results through the process.

So if you truly want lasting improvement or change in any area of your life, seek out a life coach,  make that initial appointment, be open to learning about yourself and new ways of thinking and get your life moving in the direction you truly want it to be!!

If you'd like to start your journey to personal success through learning online check out my online coaching course at www.lifedesigncoach.com/online-coaching/ 

Or you can contact me to arrange your free initial consultation at www.lifedesigncoach.com

 

 

5 Life Coaching Questions - The Honesty Test To True Happiness

Most people have doubted their happiness at one time or another; whether situations, circumstances or misaligned decisions throw us off of our perceived life plan to happiness; or more subtly where there is just that underlying niggling that although we’ve built the career, family, lifestyle that should be bringing the happiness expected, there is something that’s not sitting right in our internal compass. Like an itch you can’t quite locate in order to scratch it.

In today’s society, we are focused more and more externals as to a means to happiness; what we ‘have’, our financial status, the lifestyle we lead, how our lives & families should be, future goals for our ‘wants’. But all of this negates WHO we are internally and as importantly what ROLES we play throughout life. 

The consequence to this is exactly where the ‘itch’ lies.

With such an external focus on happiness, along with the ease at which we can now portray ourselves & compare ourselves to others on outlets such as social media, subconsciously we build on internal frustrations of what we ‘should have’ and urgency as to how we are going to reach our external goals sooner.

We lose total focus of the ‘why’s’ in which we are building our lives and get swept along in what we think we ‘should be’ doing. Underneath all of this we can almost become robot like, trying to ignore that niggle that something just isn’t right.

So here you have it. 5 Questions to ask yourself in the face of true happiness..

1)   If everything you ‘have’ was taken away from you tomorrow, what would you be left with? What values and qualities do you want to live by and want to define you as a person? Be honest…really what would you have if you didn’t have the external factors in your life to focus on.

2)   What roles do you play in life? And are they who you really are right now? We all play roles with the different people we have relationships with in our lives, whether its what we choose or how we are seen by others. Are you always supporting other people emotionally? Do you jump to buy people things or provide financially? Are you the person who everyone looks at to provide entertainment socially? Are you the main bread -winner? Are you keeping the family together to others expectations? What is your role to your colleagues, family members, friends? Some of these things aren’t always an easy thing to admit to yourself but will give you a good true insight as to who you are portraying not only to others, but to yourself as a person.

3)   What do these roles give you internally & are they still serving you? We never initially do things without some internal pay off to ourselves. But also we can outgrow roles as we change as people, or we can play them as a default to filling an internal void within us (loneliness, feeling unable to open up emotionally, inability to be truly open). When we are playing roles to others in their life, a lot of the time we are so programmed to ‘act’ this way & also are expected to continue in this role by others (as it serves them for you to continue to provide what you do), but are you really happy playing these roles? What roles aren’t being fulfilled in YOUR life?

4)   What aren’t you admitting to yourself and others? Are you lonely? Unfulfilled? Tired? Lost? If you could tell someone who would not judge or disclose to anyone else what would you tell them?

5)   What do you really want? In an IDEAL SCENE how would your life look? Who would be in your life?  What roles would they play and what would that fulfil within you? What values would your career serve? What really drives you? This is an amazing question to start really looking into who you really are, what you really want & what you currently have to fulfil these wants. Once you have established this & have a greater understanding of where you are and really where you want to go, you can start to naturally bring alignment, make small bite size decisions and have the motivation to gain what you want in your life.

When you have an insight and knowledge of who you currently are in the world, what you honestly want to say & really get clear about what it is you want you can start to evaluate your decisions from a much clearer place. This is a journey which can be further continued! 

Life Coaching is a confidential, professional & safe way of allowing you to really explore & express who you are; with skilled guidance it brings clarity, confidence and realistic goals for every area of your life to bring you to your true happiness.

 Life Design Coach has an Online Course for your continued self development at www.lifedesigncoach.com/online-courses

What Is Mindfulness?

August 26, 2014

One of the core principles of mindfulness is the concept of being in the moment, of being present. This is by no means a new concept, and anyone interested in personal growth since the 60’s would have heard the mantra of being in the moment over and over again. 

Sadly, now, many people find this to be a worn out cliché and about as appealing as a handful of raw buckwheat. 

This is doing the powerful and effective tool as part of therapy a great disservice.

 Let’s look at that in a little more detail:

 Someone suffering from anxiety, to any degree, is all about the future. What might happen. What could happen. What if it does? What if it doesn’t? What if I can’t deal with it? The possibilities are endless and can leave you totally paralyzed.

 A depressed person will typically spend a great deal of time in the past, going over and over what happened in an infinite loop. I should have. I could have. I would have. Why did I? Why didn’t I? As we can’t change the past, this will leave you defeated and hopeless.

 So what if you are neither in the past, nor in the future but right here, right now, in the present? It follows that both depression and anxiety become much harder to maintain. Of course we cannot be in the present all the time, but incorporating the practice in our day-to-day lives goes a long way towards good mental health.

Being in the moment is very much a skill and needs to be learned and practiced like any other. Starting with small easy exercises and building the muscle as time goes on, it will eventually become a steadfast companion for life.

Being mindfully present can be practiced anywhere in any situation, people won’t even know you are doing it. All they will notice is how calm and together you are. And doesn’t everyone want to be calm and together?

 

Henriette Menday is a Clinical Hypnotherapist based in Sydney. Find out more at http://www.henriettemenday.com/